`I beg your pardon, Mrs Graham--but you get on too fast. I have not yet said that a boy should be taught to rush into the snares of life,--or even wilfully to seek temptation for the sake of exercising his virtue by overcoming it;--I only say that it is better to arm and strengthen your hero, than to disarm and enfeeble the foe;--and if you were to rear an oak sapling in a hothouse, tending it carefully night and day, and shielding it from every breath of wind, you could not expect it to become a hardy tree, like that which has grown up on the mountain-side, exposed to all the action of the elements, and not even sheltered from the shock of the tempest.'
`Granted;--but would you use the same argument with regard to a girl?'
`Certainly not.'
`No; you would have her to be tenderly and delicately nurtured, like a hothouse plant--taught to cling to others for direction and support, and guarded, as much as possible, from the very knowledge of evil. But will you be so good as to inform me why you make this distinction? Is it that you think she has no virtue?'
`Assuredly not.'
`Well, but you affirm that virtue is only elicited by temptation;--and you think that a woman cannot be too little exposed to temptation, or too little acquainted with vice, or anything connected therewith--It must be, either, that you think she is essentially so vicious, or so feeble-minded, that she cannot withstand temptation,--and though she may be pure and innocent as long as she is kept in ignorance and restraint, yet, being destitute of real virtue, to teach her how to sin is at once to make her a sinner, and the greater her knowledge, the wider her liberty, the deeper will be her depravity,--whereas, in the nobler ***, there is a natural tendency to goodness, guarded by a superior fortitude, which, the more it is exercised by trials and dangers, is only the further developed--'
`Heaven forbid that I should think so!' I interrupted, at last.
`Well then, it must be that you think they are both weak and prone to err, and the slightest error, the merest shadow of pollution, will ruin the one, while the character of the other will be strengthened and embellished--his education properly finished by a little practical acquaintance with forbidden things. Such experience, to him, (to use a trite simile) will be like the storm to the oak, which, though it may scatter the leaves, and snap the smaller branches, serves but to rivet the roots, and to harden and condense the fibres of the tree. You would have us encourage our sons to prove all things by their own experience, while our daughters must not even profit by the experience of others. Now I would have both so to benefit by the experience of others, and the precepts of a higher authority, that they should know beforehand to refuse the evil and choose the good, and require no experimental proofs to teach them the evil of transgression. I would not send a poor girl into the world unarmed against her foes, and ignorant of the snares that beset her path;--nor would I watch and guard her, till, deprived of self-respect and self-reliance, she lost the power, or the will, to watch and guard herself;--and as for my son--if I thought he would grow up to be what you call a man of the world--one that has " seen life," and glories in his experience, even though he should so far profit by it, as to sober down, at length, into a useful and respected member of society--I would rather that he died tomorrow!--rather a thousand times!' she earnestly repeated, pressing her darling to her side and kissing his forehead with intense affection. He had, already, left his new companion, and been standing for some time beside his mother's knee, looking up into her face, and listening in silent wonder to her incomprehensible discourse.
`Well! you ladies must always have the last word, I suppose, said I, observing her rise and begin to take leave of my mother.
`You may have as many words as you please,--only I can't stay to hear them.'
`No; that is the way: you hear just as much of an argument as you please; and the rest may be spoken to the wind.'
`If you are anxious to say anything more on the subject,' replied she, as she shook hands with Rose, `you must bring your sister to see me some fine day, and I'll listen, as patiently as you could wish, to whatever you please to say. I would rather be lectured by you than the vicar, because I should have less remorse in telling you, at the end of the discourse, that, I preserve my own opinion precisely the same as at the beginning--as would be the case, I am persuaded, with regard to either logician.'
`Yes, of course,' replied I, determined to be as provoking as herself; `for, when a lady does consent to listen to an argument against her own opinions, she is always predetermined to withstand it to listen only with her bodily ears, keeping the mental organs resolutely closed against the strongest reasoning.'
`Good morning, Mr Markham,' said my fair antagonist, with a pitying smile; and deigning no further rejoinder, she slightly bowed, and was about to withdraw; but her son, with childish impertinence, arrested her by exclaiming,--`Mamma, you have not shaken hands with Mr Markham!'
She laughingly turned round, and held out her hand. I gave it a spiteful squeeze; for I was annoyed at the continual injustice she had done me from the very dawn of our acquaintance, Without knowing anything about my real disposition and principles, she gas evidently prejudiced against me, and seemed bent upon showing me that her opinions respecting me, on every particular, fell far below those I entertained of myself.
I was naturally touchy, or it would not have vexed me so much. Perhaps, too, I was a little bit spoiled by my mother and sister, and some other ladies of my acquaintance;--and yet, I was by no means a fop--of that I am fully convinced, whether you are or not.
